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It sounds like Holly is really struggling when she's on her own, and that's stressful for both of you. The good news is that separation anxiety is something that can genuinely improve with the right approach — it just takes some patience and consistency.
A few things that are commonly helpful for dogs dealing with this kind of anxiety:
Build up alone time gradually
One of the most effective strategies is called desensitization — basically, teaching Holly that being alone is no big deal by starting with very short separations (even just a minute or two) and slowly increasing the time. The goal is to keep her below her "panic threshold" so she never gets to the point of full distress.
Create a positive association with your departure cues
Dogs with separation anxiety often start to spiral the moment they see you grabbing your keys or putting on your shoes. Try picking up your keys and then sitting back down, or putting on your coat and not leaving. Over time, those cues lose their power.
Give her a job to do when you leave
A stuffed frozen food toy (like a Kong packed with something she loves and frozen overnight) can keep her occupied during the hardest part — the first 15–20 minutes after you leave. Only bring it out when you're leaving so it stays special.
Increase physical and mental exercise before you go
A tired dog is generally a calmer dog. A good walk or play session before you leave can take the edge off.
Consider the environment
Some dogs do better in a smaller, den-like space (a crate they've been positively trained to love, or a single room) rather than having the run of the house. Others do better with background noise like a TV or white noise machine.
Look into professional support
For anxiety this significant — chewing walls and woodwork is a sign of real distress — a certified applied animal behaviorist or a veterinary behaviorist can make a huge difference. These are specialists who work specifically on behavior issues like this. A trainer who uses positive reinforcement methods can also help you work through a desensitization plan step by step.
When to see your vet:
Holly's anxiety sounds significant enough that a vet conversation is really worth having soon — ideally in the next week or two if you can manage it. Here's why: for dogs with severe separation anxiety, behavioral support alone sometimes isn't enough, and a vet (or a veterinary behaviorist) can discuss whether additional options make sense for Holly specifically. Watch especially for signs that she's hurting herself (broken nails, injured mouth or paws from chewing), not eating, or losing weight — those would make the visit more urgent. You're clearly doing a lot for her already, and a vet can help you build on that.
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